My youngest, who is 4 and very curious, walked up to me and asked, “Mama, do you have a baby in your tummy.”
My insecurity screamed inside as I rationalized the fact that my “pooch” apparently resembles more of a baby belly?! If I had walked away at that moment I would have scrutinized my body for the remainder of the evening.
Some of you are thinking, “You care that much about what a 4-year-old says?!”
The answer is…”Yes…sometimes…depending on what kind of mood I’m in.” That’s not the point!
I didn’t walk away, I answered him, “No, Darling. Mommy does not have a baby in my tummy. Do I look like I have a baby in my tummy?”
To which he replied, “I was just checkin’! Miss Jill has a baby in her belly.”
“Yes, Darling. I know she does. Do you want me to have a baby in my belly?”
“No.” he exclaimed, “I want a cat with green eyes.”
“Well that’s good!” I said. “Because I’m done having babies!”
Though this was a funny exchange between my preschooler and me it was also an opportunity for me to learn. It made me think of all the times I have had conversations with people when one word or phrase they used would send me spinning into assumptions instead of listening and seeking to understand.
Our children can teach us so much. If you don’t have children of your own, find some and listen to their conversations. What my son reaffirmed today is that God knew what he was doing when he gave me 1 mouth and 2 ears. I need to listen twice as much as I speak.