As the boys grow older I am more intrigued with the differences between them and me. It’s incredible how they are created with an innate sense of wildness. They need adventure every day. It doesn’t have to be extravagant adventure, it can be nature. Every time my boys are loose in nature, it’s an adventure.
We recently took a trip to the North Carolina mountains. We spent the days hiking, wading through streams, throwing rocks in creeks and using our “outside voices”…a lot.
I am constantly learning and growing from the way they experience life.
While on the trip some things were made very clear to me about “how to” travel (successfully) with boys.
They need to;
Wander off the path
Throw leaves in the river (at the same time so they can watch them race and see who wins)
Skip rocks at the waterfall.
Walk through spider webs and feel the sticky strings tug the little hairs on their face as they pull it free from their skin.
Take their shirts off and flex their adventurer muscles
Scream at the top of their lungs and make funny animal sounds.
They crave excitement and uncertainty.
They want to see how big God is,
how powerful nature can be and
how beautiful wild flowers/weeds grow.
They need to pee on trees and hock a loogie from the bridge.
They need to hear their voice echo through a canyon and laugh at the mystery of how it sounds.
They need to touch every insect they see and hold a salamander.
Stop and look at the trail they’ve left behind.
Plunge their hands into the mud and get dirt under their nails.
Taste the raindrops and feel the sun kiss the tops of their cheeks, leaving behind its warmth and color.
They need to test the limits of “No Trespassing” signs and jump from the highest point they can find.
They need to wade through lakes with sharp rock beds
See how raindrops form on petals and recognize how delicate beauty can be.
They need to balance on railing, no matter how far off the ground.
They need to play checkers on stamped cement by hopping to their next move.
They need to see all the colors infused into life.
They need to stand atop the largest rock they can find and say in their loudest voice, “I’M KING OF THE ROCKS!!!”
They need to believe they can be whomever they want to be. A hero, a ranger, a rock star, a professional salamander finder.
They need to know we support their adventures, endeavors and conquers.
They need to know we believe in their dreams, no matter how grandiose.
They need to know, because one day when they face decisions about their future and we are not standing beside them, our voice will echo in their mind just like theirs did in the canyon years before. What they hear is crucial to the men they are becoming.
So, moms of boys, the next time he hands you a rock that looks like the last 23 rocks he’s said he “has to take home”, put it in your pocket to add to the collection.
When he picks those weeds that look so much like flowers and brings you a handful with a big grin on his face, I beg you, take them, exclaiming in your most excited voice how incredibly beautiful they are and how thoughtful he is for choosing you to give them to.
Take a picture of his finds in his little hand realizing that one day his hands will be big and he will no longer be interested in showing you the petals of the flower he found on the ground.So, do you “Have boys will travel?” Where do you like to go? What are you most looking forward to experiencing with them this Summer? Or maybe you want to add to the list about traveling with boys. Go for it, the comment section is yours.
I am raising four future men. Today has been a bit more adventurous than I personally prefer. Thank you for reminding me why I’m doing what I’m doing.
You definitely have your work cut out for you!
I know how you feel. Well, about 1/2 of how you feel 😉 I need constant reminders of why I’m doing what I’m doing. So just know that when I write these, it’s my reminder as well 🙂
Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. You are doing a great work.
Blessings and Light,
Hi Joy….I had one daughter but thank you so much for letting me be a part of what goes on in the life and thoughts of boys. I love it when you write these letters…keep it up!
You are such a source of encouragement for me. Thank you so much for reading and always taking the time to comment.
Blessings and Light,
Oh my goodness! This was beautiful! Thank you for impressing the point that the guiding voice in their heads will be ours, so speak with love and encouragement!
Thank you Malia!
I really appreciate your taking the time to read and comment.
Have a wonderful weekend 🙂
Blessings and Light,