We’ve all heard it said that men are visual. I believe it to be true.
For some reason women, especially “women of faith” either voice issue with undergarments or treat it as taboo. Why?!
They say things like, “My husband shouldn’t have to see me in something red and tight to want me!” Truth is, he doesn’t! The end result is to see you in nothing at all, it just makes the trip there a little more fun.
Ladies, you are missing it! As a proud, card-carrying patron of Victoria’s Secret I’ve learned a few things over the years.
1.– There is the assumption that the only reason to wear lingerie is for someone else’s viewing pleasure. WRONG. I mean…half wrong. Wear lingerie because it increases your sex appeal…in the mirror. When you feel sexy, you’re more inclined to be sexy. Throw out those over worn granny panties. YOU will feel better in a little lace.
Not feeling so hot? “Throw some lace on it.”
2. – No matter your size, choose something that fits. Let me break this down for you…
If you’re a size 0, don’t buy a size 4 because you’re self-conscious and you’ve never worn anything form-fitting, above the knee or off the shoulders. Ladies, I’m not asking you to wear this get-up while shopping at the grocery store! It’s in the privacy of your own home.
If you’re a size 16, don’t buy a size 8 and attempt to squeeze yourself into it. That will only make you feel worse about yourself. Buy for your body. Let me say that again. BUY FOR YOUR BODY. Not for the body you are aspiring to have. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. That’s what sales associates are there for.
3.– You can stop being judgmental and rationalizing why you don’t look like the model in the life-size mural on the wall in the store. Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about. We’ve all cut our eyes and hidden our husband and children from the half-naked woman strewn across the boudoir. (Those poor girls would give anything for a cheeseburger and a shake.) I’m telling you to walk in there proudly, warm pretzel nuggets in one hand, Starbucks beverage in the other and give that gal in the poster a little wink as you make your way to the “get your sexy on” or in some cases, “bring your sexy back” section of the store.
For those of you thinking, “There must be some scripture, somewhere to dispute wearing lingerie.” Bring it! I’ve never seen it, so enlighten me. I mean, have you read Song of Solomon?! There’s some pretty steamy stuff in there once you decode the palm tree, goat and pomegranate analogies.
I’m not telling you to blow the budget on fancy panties, but I’m pretty sure when discussing finances with your man, he will find room in the budget for a little shopping trip. Better yet, discuss budget in the buff. It’s always worked for me.
Your turn! Do you think any size woman should feel comfortable in lingerie? If not, what’s the cutoff?
Great post! Love the “get what fits” advice!
It took me a while to learn that, but once I did, it made all the difference! 🙂
I’d be happy to eat peanut butter sandwiches to shift more money into the lingerie budget. 🙂 I also think when one wears sexy lingerie you are also communicating that you are important to me and I want to do this for you. That’s goes beyond the eyes into the soul. Heck I’d wear a cape if my woman wanted me to. 🙂 The reality also is that the clothes do not make the woman sexy; it’s the woman that makes the clothes sexy.
Very true Mark!
I may suggest the cape idea to Chris 🙂
This is so true – thanks for the reminder. My husband loves seeing me in these. I bought a ton of beautiful sexy “slip-type” nighties from TJMaxx (the brand I bought has a photo of Marilyn Monroe on it) and I wore a different one every night of our honeymoon which was 8 weeks ago. He thinks I am very hot in them and out of them! 🙂
Brenda, I love that!
Thank you for letting us know what the tag looked like on your TJ Maxx find! It doesn’t have to be VS, it just needs to be something 😉 Congrats married lady!