Alright ladies, listen up!
If you are a “Christian” who feels guilty because you want to look nice, raise your hand. Darlings, when did God declare, “There shall be no highlighting of hair, painting of nails, or staining of lips”? Who told you that beauty isn’t important to the one who created it to begin with?!
I am so tired of hearing women bash other women because they’re pretty, curvy, skinny, tall, short, well put together or any number of things that we all strive to be. Why don’t we walk up to each other and say, “Girrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrl, you got it goin’ on!” Instead we gossip and make snarky comments to anyone who will listen about how we bet she’s starving herself or throwing up… she probably doesn’t have the money to buy that outfit so she charged it and is in debt… that’s not even her hair, it’s a weave… or highlights, or a hair piece. Let me tell you something, the moment I pay for highlights, a weave or a hair piece, technically it’s mine!
Some of you have seen my Facebook post about my hair stylist Freddie and his trusted assistant, Jason.
Freddie and Jason restored a sense of beauty in me that I haven’t felt for a while. Not because I don’t feel valued. Not because I need more attention from my husband. Not because someone was mean to me. Are you ready for this?
BECAUSE I DIDN’T LIKE MY HAIR.
I didn’t even realize that I felt this way until Freddie changed my look. I feel great! What I don’t feel is guilty for spending 2 hours in a salon, away from my children, being pampered by professionals and paying money that I worked hard to earn.
You shouldn’t either!
I have received mostly positive feedback from the picture on FB, but I did have one woman email to say, “Don’t you feel selfish taking all of that time away from your husband and children to have unnecessary things done to your appearance?” Hmmmm…”No. Should I?”
Here’s the deal beauties, I am finding more and more that when I take a little time out to take care of myself, I am a much better wife and mother. Chris and I are a team. He’s not a babysitter, he’s their father. I didn’t turn in my id card when becoming a mother. Did life change? Sure. Is it richer and fuller? Yes. Do I find my identity in my children? No. Plus, when I feel better about myself, I feel sexier for my husband. See how this works? I cannot imagine God saying it’s a bad thing.
People will disagree with me and that’s okay. (Please disagree in the comments and don’t send me an email.) Here is what I believe. God took His time. He created every living thing with such ornate detail. He sculpted the earth. He used color and light. He didn’t throw a blob of black and grey together and say, “It is good.” He created beauty and said, “It is good.”
So for those of you condemning those of us who take delight in highlights, stilettos and red lippy, I say, “Stop acting so religious and go get your hair done! You’ll thank me.”
Don’t underestimate the positive impact of a seemingly small change. AND you don’t even have to have surgery. I’m going to make this super easy for you Atlanta peeps. Here’s Freddie’s card.
I suggest calling to make an appointment. When they answer the phone, they ask, “How may we make your day beautiful?” I love that!
I do believe firmly that one who takes care of themselves(and sometimes that’s doing something entirely for you) that they are much better at taking care of those they love. It would be hard for me to believe that anyone could stand up to a close look at their lives and you not being able to find them doing stuff for themselves. I want the ones I love to be selfish at times. I want them to relish in what they want to do and not be concerned that they are always giving. I want them to take time for themselves to exercise, to steal away to read a good book, to get their hair and nails done, to spend time with a friend. Those things add richness to their lives. For richness in ones life always overflows into those they are around.
I also believe the most beautiful women I know like you are women whose internal beauty magnifies their external beauty. You make yourself beautiful not only getting your hair done or exercising but following the maker of all beauty.
Awww, thank you Mark. That is very kind of you to say!
Joy, RIGHT ON. I have NEVER apologize for wanting to be beautiful. I think my husband deserves it. It’s one the ways I honor him.
A girl after my own heart 😉
Amen Sista! Love the new hair-do! You are beautiful from the inside out. xoxo
Thank you, Love! Takes one to know one 😉